You’re Allowed to Change Your Mind About Everything

By: Sarah Gabrielle Barajas, M.A, PSB: 94027905 

There’s this quiet pressure many of us carry: to stay consistent. To follow through on what we said we’d do. To remain who we’ve always been—stable, predictable, unchanged. 

But what if that version of you no longer fits? 

What if the goals you once chased don’t feel right anymore? 

What if the beliefs you held no longer align with your lived experience? 

What if you’re realizing you want something completely different—from your relationships, your career, your identity, your life? 

You are allowed to change your mind. About all of it. 

That’s not flakiness. That’s growth. 

Why Change Feels So Uncomfortable 

Many of us were taught that changing your mind is a form of failure or disloyalty. That once you make a decision—about your identity, your religion, your career path, your relationships—you’re supposed to stick with it forever. But that idea ignores one very important truth: 

You are not the same person you were last year. Or five years ago. Or yesterday. 

Your experiences, relationships, and pain shape you. So does healing. And healing often means letting go of the stories you used to survive, and writing new ones from a place of truth. 

But change can feel scary. It might mean disappointing others. It might mean stepping into uncertainty. It might mean grieving who you were, even as you embrace who you’re becoming. 

That’s where therapy comes in. 

What Therapy Offers During Times of Change 

● A safe space to question everything without shame 

● Support in exploring who you are beyond old roles or labels 

● Permission to let go of outdated identities that no longer serve you 

● Help processing the emotions that come with change—grief, confusion, relief, fear, excitement 

Whether you’re shifting your worldview, your parenting style, your relationships, or your values—you’re allowed to evolve. Your needs are allowed to change. Your priorities are allowed to shift. And your life doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s to be valid. 

You Don’t Owe Anyone Consistency at the Cost of Your Growth 

Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is admit: 

“That used to be true for me—but it’s not anymore.” 

That doesn’t make your past choices meaningless. It just means you’re listening to your present truth. 

If you’re in a season of change and feeling unsure, therapy can be a safe place to sort through it—with clarity, compassion, and zero pressure to have it all figured out. Visit healingsolutionsftc.org or call 661-903-8822. We’ll meet you where you are—and help you move toward where you want to be.