How to Talk to Kids About Anxiety

By: Sarah Gabrielle Barajas, M.A, PSB: 94027905

Children can experience anxiety just like adults, but they often do not have the words to explain what they are feeling. Instead, anxiety may show up as stomachaches, trouble sleeping, irritability, or avoiding certain situations like school or social events. When children feel overwhelmed, having calm and supportive conversations can help them understand and manage their emotions.

One helpful first step is normalizing anxiety. Let your child know that everyone feels worried sometimes and that these feelings are a normal part of life. For example, you might say, “Sometimes our brain tries to protect us by warning us about things that feel scary. That feeling is called worry.” This helps children understand that anxiety is something many people experience.

It is also important to validate their feelings rather than dismiss them. Even if the situation seems small to adults, it can feel very big to a child. Instead of saying, “There’s nothing to worry about,”try saying, “I can see that this feels really scary for you. Do you want to tell me more about it?” This helps children feel heard and supported.

Parents can also help children identify what anxiety feels like in their body. You might ask questions such as:

• “Does your tummy feel tight when you feel worried?”

• “Does your heart feel like it’s beating really fast?”

Helping children recognize these signals can make it easier for them to understand their emotions. Teaching simple coping skills can also help. For example, you might practice slow breathing together by saying, “Let’s take three slow breaths together and see if our bodies feel calmer.” Other children may benefit from drawing their worries, taking a short break, or talking about their feelings.

If anxiety begins to interfere with your child’s sleep, school, or daily activities, additional support may be helpful. Therapy can help children learn tools to manage worry while also supporting parents in understanding their child’s emotional needs.

If your child is struggling with anxiety, Healing Solutions Family Therapy Center is here to help. Visit healingsolutionsftc.org or call 661-903-8822 to learn more about our services.